This week, I have had the opportunity to speak as a guest at another local MOPS group and also to lead devotions at our MOPS Steering Meeting. As the guest speaker, I spoke on The Angry Mother Topic (always a favorite). At both meetings, I encouraged the Moms with this verse…
“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” Proverbs 14:1
I used this verse to encourage the Moms to start over again this new year. To start over again by:
- Slowing Down: Ask yourself what is really important. Is stressing yourself and your children out by being so busy running here and there really that valuable? Is having your children involved in all kinds of activities (sports, church, dance, etc…) really building into your children the values you desire to build. Could slowing down and not being so involved help build a stronger family and faith legacy. It takes time to raise children, time to read books, time to stop and pick up rocks, time to listen to children tell you their stories. It takes time to teach your children about your faith. Slow down and give your family less stress.
- Lower Your Expectations: Here it is again, that whole expectation thing. For some reason, we always believe that our lives, our homes, our marriages, our children should look a certain way (and usually it has to do with some unobtainable marketing image that has been presented to us). We all have things in our lives that are not great and no matter how perfect someone else’s life appears – they too are dealing with something. Please allow your kids to be kids, your husband to just be a man, and your home to not be a showcase by lowering your expectations.
- Deal With The Things That Are Bugging You: Every time I speak about The Angry Mother, I tell the Moms (and myself) that when I am upset (or angry or withdrawn) — it is typically when I am not dealing with something going on in my life and I take it out on others. Earlier this week, I was frustrated with Bill over our trash and with an Internet Photo Company over unanswered emails (now I am sure they never want to hear from me again) – but what I was really dealing with was my frustration over my health issues. Thankfully, Bill chose not to engage with me in a conflict and later that day I realized my “issues” and apologized to him (now I just need to call the Internet company back 🙁 ).
- Offer Grace To Others And Yourself: How we all need this gift of grace everyday. Offering grace to someone who is not doing exactly what you want (and this includes yourself) is such a gift. Instead of being frustrated with your husband or kids — how about offering the gift of grace. How thankful I am that God offered grace to me and may I offer this gift to those I love most every day.
“By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established: through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.” Proverbs 24:3-4
And there is the word treasure again : treasures that you can actually fill your home with. The treasure of a grace filled home. Once again, at the beginning of this new year, start over again and build your home with time, love and grace – treasures that you actually can leave as a legacy . I am praying for you …